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Love Me (Bar) Tender

Stage Mom

Presented in Season 3 2021

Presented by Arts House

Wed 1 – Sat 4 Dec, 2021
5.15pm, 5.45pm, 6.15pm, 6.45pm, 7.15pm

25 min

General Admission $20 each + transaction fee
BLAKTIX $10 each + transaction fee
This experience is for two audience members at a time – come with a friend, a lover, a colleague – bookings made together. 

Arts House
North Melbourne Town Hall
521 Queensberry St,
North Melbourne

Read our COVID-19 Safety Plan here.

18+ only

Wheelchair Accessible
Auslan Interpreting

Your private bartender Oracle awaits… make your pilgrimage and find answers in a custom cocktail, inspired by your secret conversations. 

Love Me (Bar) Tender is an exclusive encounter for pairs who aren’t afraid to get real with themselves… or each other.

Unburden yourself to a friendly bartender, who is always ready to lend a generous ear. The conversation might lead you in unexpected directions, but there’s a deeper purpose to it all, finally arriving at the creation of a cocktail matched to that most elusive dish: you.

Love Me (Bar) Tender is an experience for two, so bring a friend, a loved one or a colleague with a taste for the unexpected. Come thirsty and know thyself.

“gloriously trashy, non-PC comedy”
Witness Performance on Truly Madly Britney

“Stage Mom is fast becoming a company to watch – sassy, smart and utterly hilarious”
Australian Arts Review on Love You Bitch


About the Company

Stage Mom is an award-winning multi-disciplinary performance collective led by director/dramaturg Hannah Fallowfield and writer/dramaturg Alberto Di Troia.

With an interest in collaborative making, participatory audience experiences and innovations in narrative storytelling across live art, theatre and screen, Stage Mom uses comedy, genre and mass culture to disarm, engage and provoke audiences. Works include Love You Bitch (Theatre Works & Midsumma Festival 2021); Love Me (Bar) Tender (Darwin Festival 2020); I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Cooking For (Melbourne Fringe 2019) and Truly Madly Britney (Theatre Works & Midsumma Festival 2019).

Artist Statement

We originally conceived this work in the middle of 2020, when we were really missing the pub! Pre-pandemic it was so normal to meet over a drink in a pub or bar, but in the absence of this we became fascinated with what this age-old ritual represented.

We were inspired by the Oracle of Delphi, and the journey supplicants would undertake to ask for advice and seek knowledge held by the oracle. Researching the rituals undertaken by the consultants (literally “those that seek counsel”) we laughed about how similar it sounded to participating in a particularly gruelling night out - drinking, emotional vulnerability and seeking validation from anyone, especially the bartender serving you.

Love Me (Bar)Tender aims to recontextualise the true meaning of “hospitality”, and pulls back the curtain on the intimacy, trust and connection involved in someone making you a drink. It shines a spotlight on the often invisible role of the bartender, which feels especially important now given the precariousness of the industry, and the amount hospitality workers have suffered due to casualisation and lack of government support.


Concept - Hannah Fallowfield & Alberto Di Troia (Stage Mom) Bartender – Harrison Breese
Set Designer – Bridget Milesi

Originally commissioned by Darwin Festival 

Image credit: Peter Frith

Image description: A woman in a white shirt stands in front of a bar with her eyes closed. She has a gold halo imposed behind her head and she is pouring a red drink from a silver shaker into a small coupe glass in her left hand. She has shoulder length brown hair, red lipstick, and a serene expression on her face. 

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